How to Deal With Negative People (requested)

Okay so this post was requested by someone on tumblr who said they wanted advice on how to deal with mean people/ bullies. If you're reading this and are being bullied to a point where you can't handle it yourself, tell an adult please. Anyway the reason why I feel like it would be better to write a post on here as opposed to just answering a question on tumblr is because I have been severely bullied myself and I wanted to have a chance to make a long post about dealing with it. 

In middle school I was bullied for a while and it got worse and worse until eventually it turned physical. Now in high school, I'm completely fine with the occasional rude comment, which is easy to deal with.  This is not to say that I have a tolerance for people being nasty or rude, because I don't believe that it is acceptable in any case. Everyone is going through different things and no one has a right to be hostile towards anyone. 

Okay, so one thing I've noticed is that the person who is being mean to you doesn't always have a reason to dislike you in the first place. I know from experience that I've always treated everyone nicely and people were spiteful towards me regardless. Just know that at the end of the day you will be fine and when everything is over you will be much more satisfied that you were nice to everyone, rather than being that mean person. It's a good thing to be able to treat everyone nicely, especially when someone is bothering you so much.

Sometimes when people are being malicious towards you it's understandable that you might feel self-conscious. I used to be like that, but after starting high school I realized that life is way to short to care about what other people think. Yes, I know this sounds incredibly corny but it's so, so true. 

If you want to be happy, don't let someone's opinion restrict you from doing what you want to do. The easiest thing to do is to not value their opinion at all. You need to realize that people who have these kinds of opinions towards you are often insecure about some things themselves. Otherwise, why would they care so much about what you're doing?

Basically, don't worry about what other people think or say to/ about you. Honestly in the end (at least I believe) all that matters is that you are a nice person and that you are able to live happily and without regrets. This means not caring about what other people say or do. This means being able to ignore their actions which becomes easier and easier (trust me). After a while, you'll feel bad for these people because you'll realize that there's a reason for them treating others this way, and it's often reflective of their own insecurities. 

Sorry if this became sort of a rant but I really care about this subject and I hope that my advice can help at least one person who is being bothered by someone else! x

PS:  Its so important to surround yourself with great people you love and people that love you.  In the end that's all that really matters in my opinion! :)

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